#214: Untold Stories Don’t Heal with Mary DeMuth

How can I talk to my kids about sexual abuse? How do I know if what I encountered is abuse? Is my church a safe place for my kids? All of these are important questions and we talk about the hard stuff today with my guest Mary DeMuth. Her best advice for us? Speak up, and persevere anyway.

If you met Mary DeMuth today, her joy might confuse you. Who she has become in light of tragedy is a testimony of Jesus’s ability to transform a broken life. A child of three divorces, a victim of repeated sexual assault at five-years-old, with a father who died when she was ten, Mary wanted to end her life in her teens. In the tenth grade, she heard about Jesus, and she knew she wanted to chase after Him for the rest of her life. Thankfully, He chased her.

Mary is the author of forty books, including her latest: We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis. She has spoken around the world about God’s ability to transform a life and planted a church with her family in southern France.

Her best work? Being a mom to three amazing young adults and the wife of 28 years to Patrick. She makes her home in Dallas alongside her husband, an energetic chocolate lab, and a fuzzy black cat.

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  • Mary’s history of sexual abuse and finding Christ

  • how Mary reconciles her faith in a good God who allowed her to be abused

  • how Mary’s experiences have affected her parenting

  • what lead Mary to focus on the abuse happening in the church

  • how Mary is using the stories of other survivors to help fuel her advocacy

  • the power of sharing your story

  • key factors of a safe church

  • how to recognize when you’ve been abused and how to begin to heal

  • Mary’s encouragement for survivors about the process of healing

  • confronting your abuser

  • educating your kids about sex and abuse

  • what Christians can do to help bring justice for victims


21 Days of Healing
The Child Safeguarding Policy for Churches and Ministries
God Made All of Me: A Book to Help Children Protect Their Bodies
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